Marriage

 

I’m very sorry for the sorrow and the suffering of all abused persons..
When a spouse is abusive, it is not that easy to make him or her to stop..
P.S., Men represent 40% of the domestic abuse cases worldwide..!!

This inhumane behavior is influenced of Bad Spirits on people..
Bad Spirits (Shytan and his klan) had sworn to Allah swt to dysfunction the righteous path..
This can only happens by monopolizing of the spiritually-weak persons to cause hurt and harm to spiritually-moderate others..
The only shield is obtained by adherence to Quran and Sunnah; in terms of governing the way we live, act and respond..

Many visitors had hit the page of Muslim Wife..
Wives had complained from abusive or neglecting husbands..
I had made my intensive research and posted replies to meet each case..
Trying to fill the gap between physical and spiritual practices of Islam..
Some small deeds may look funny, but very effective, and meaningful for who knows..!

I do not recommend any intervention with the faulty spouse.. They would turn more abusive..
Just try hard the advices and the commandments, and keep repeating..
Hold strong your trust of Allah swt.. and how close He swt is to you..
Simply, He swt is however we envision Him swt.. Close or Distant.. Careful of Busy..!!

The abusive spouse needs some body whom s/he respects; to advise..
How it is import to be gentle to the family..
If a spouse is not gentle, when old-time comes, no one would serve him or her with water..
Life is all about trading values and morals..

O’ Fellow Muslim..
The third notion of creation is about lawful reproduction and raise capable generations of believers…
Those who will continue to glorify Almighty Creator; Allah swt
Those who will continue to worship and praise Allah swt for his blessings and gifts..
This is the sacredness of Marriage.. in Islamic point of view..

Then, when we die, our possessions and deeds will not shield us from the Grave-Hardship..
No one had come back to life; to tall us what Grave-Hardship is..
We have to trust the words of Allah swt and His Messenger PBUH.. on how real it is..

Each of us need a family to make sincere Dau’a and Sadaqah for mercy, after our death..
The more loving their prayers for us would be, the soft our Grave-Hardship will be..
Strangers would feel sorry for our death, yet; sooner would forget and keep their own living..
Only our spouses and family would keep remembering and praying for us..
These prayers will shower our graves with water, bright and make-wider..
Can you imagine what this means..?

No wonder how many tears fill your eyes now…
If not.. Your heart needs serious purification..!
Easy done: Gear up, make wadu and strong intention for apology and forgiveness..
Then offer couple of Rakaah with a grateful conscious heart..
This is the glorious blessed start-up..

May Allah swt bless you, your family and your loved ones..

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The Carter’s; the most famous Couple..

From: Ne tuguj, Allah je s tobom

(Do not grieve, Allah is with you)

A Bosnian Facebook Group
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Marriage is an oasis in which your mental peace and happiness are the men and women, therefore it is necessary to make every effort to make this marriage oasis protect and preserve, and it will help the spouses and the tips of some psychologists and people who have tried the double Water …

First; The absence of women in a short time strengthens the marital bond, while the long absence disrupts this relationship.

Second; A man must know the nature of his wife, in order to properly understand and be referred to it in the right way.

Third; Do not let quarrels and disputes among spouses persist until the next day.

4th Not to mention the experience from previous marriages, which are related to the previous wife or husband.

5th Go through the imagination of an ideal marriage, but live in their own way and not expect the marriage supernatural miracles.

6th Use every opportunity to tell your wife that you love.

7th Always be smiling and cheerful faces, and struggles to overcome these problems and not sorrow.

8th Beware of being constantly commenting popratiš woman’s actions, whether big or small.

9th Always discuss what a small number of problems and do not let them in the evening, an attempt to solve the problem before you are out of control.

10th According to jealousy, suspicions and intrigues of the enemies refer wisely and cleverly, without any prejudice or accusation.

11th Instill security in their lives and those of his companion, be sure of himself and prove to him that you are satisfied with it.

12th It is not enough to marry the appropriate person so that you be a happy marriage, and you must be the appropriate person.

13th Cleanliness is half of faith and it is proof of love.

14th Give up some of the things that are an integral part of your personality to life through the good qualities that he enjoyed the love of his companion.

15th Takes care of the life of a loved one as you lead yourself and she wants what you want it.

16th Mutual giving and taking of gifts … Do not be a person who seeks a little more give and take all or nothing is paid.

17th A man wants his woman to be a special wife, who is behaving nicely at every opportunity, which he expresses love, watch it, and comforts, while the woman wants her husband to be a strong personality that will draw, which is able to meet its needs and it is certain that she was the last woman in his life.

18th In life, do not accuse your loved one for every problem that occurs.

19th He lives his days and not think about tomorrow’s problems have not yet occurred, and live according to their capabilities.

20th Up to you, O man, to realize the value of a good marriage, and she’s firm commitment, so think a thousand times before they bring a decision, after which a man regrets will be of benefit.

21st The marriage can not rely only on love, which is an important and indispensable factor for the preservation of marriage.

22nd In life, be a model for a loved one, let your actions speak of your personality.

23rd Do not let relatives and neighbors to intervene in your married life, but every attempt to solve the problem alone, according to their capabilities.

24th Do not rush to correcting errors of his companion, because there are certain habits to which the change takes time.

25th Marriage should be taken with all the responsibilities that entails, completely calm the heart and soul with pleasure.

26th Try to leave all that leads to differences in marriage.

27th Helps his wife in their everyday jobs, so you can come together even more.

28th Give your wife a chance to freely express their feelings, and do not make fun of her abilities.

29th Material rights must be respected and should not be lightly understood, because they are the main reason for disagreements between spouses.

30th Beware of friends that can interfere in your private life under the guise of counseling and guidance.

31st Prove to her husband that he is the right person, show him you’re proud and pleased with his personality.

32nd Set yourself the following questions in order to realized / values by their spouse and to thus successfully resolve their problems:
– What is it that captures the heart of every one of you with his spouse?
– What are the activities in which you feel pleasure?
– What does each of you in order to draw attention to your spouse?
– What do you expect from a loved one to feel that you really love?
– What are your dreams are common in the future?

33rd When mutual quarrels, beware do not use words that your husband will be angry.

34th Exchange gifts … you’ll love it … Let it be the motto in all appropriate situations (joy and happiness).

35th Clever wife is the one who chooses the appropriate time in order of her husband asked what it takes her and her children, also need to choose an appropriate time to bring attention to some of the failures of her husband, but in most cases this is not the appropriate time … therefore, think many times.

36th Not zapostavljaj wife … zapostavljaj husband does not … consultation is an important thing in a marriage … Each spouse needs to feel that it is essential in planning and life is not neglected.

37th Not running away from home when problems arise, because running away from the problem not the solution, does not matter that the man calmed down a bit, and then return to solve the problem.

38th Do not stifle her husband many questions that do not concern you and do not try to get to his secret that you do not want to reveal, in this case the husband would leave home and go to another place to rest!

39th If you’re one of those women who are employed, do not forget that the house is the greatest obligations to you, and trying to uskladiš family and business commitments.

40th Not uzrujavaj when you come to an event, husbands relatives, but are nice and welcome, welcome, because if so postupiš husband will notice it and will appreciate your efforts.

41st It’s nice to refer to the mother and oslovljavaj the most beautiful names of loved ones, according to custom, and do not quarrel with her, in her presence mention of her husband just as good.

42nd Constant divergence of opinion leads to divergence of the heart, used to support the opinion of her husband even though he did not agree with him … obey the husband in what is good.

43rd Calmness that her husband needed in the home can be achieved by making you calm down children, giving them signing to play dice, drawing, etc.

44th Your kids are a great boon, because they do not do it accidentally neglecting their education … let it be more important than everything.

45th Be a helper to her husband in worship … asks the world as such are looking for this world.

46th Extravagance disrupts married life, destroys the blessings of Allah, and Allah does not like the spendthrift.

47th Have a happy marriage does not have a life without problems, rather it means the ability to solve these problems, so as not to influence the relationship between you and your husband.

48th Well be careful not to svađaš with her husband in the presence of children, do not raise their voice when they are there, first because children learn from example and imitation, then all problems are etched into their consciousness, which can have serious consequences for the child.

49th Read about the development and treatment of children, in order to relate to them better, leaving what may be a bad influence on their development.

50th Do not allow anyone to interfere in your married life … Do not recite your secret relatives or friends.