Monotheism Prayers

 

A Jewish Prostration

Among the three religions; respectively: Judaism, Christianity and Islam, similarities in Prayer’s concepts and formation.. This is not provoked by the differences which had been evolved during times, when religious frauds spread along with religious deformations..

The similarities are further clear between Islam and Judaism, while there is an ancient form of Christian prayer, only practiced in Upper Egypt; which has similarities to the others.. Despite How I did not yet explore the Sabian Prayers; but expecting the same similarities..

Baptism, or Wada’u is also has many similarities too; which around the religious secrets of Water, Purity and Preparedness for prayer..

Parents Acceptance

 How to deal with Tough Parents..!!

Getting their Acceptance and Blessings..

Many Muslims, specially young women and men are facing tough times, trying to convince their parents and close relatives on accepting their chosen partners.. This is what typically called “Love Marriage” among Asian Muslims in particular.. The same is happening elsewhere, by different names and severity as well..

We need to acknowledge that not necessarily all practices among Muslims are abide to Islam, as various Religious teachings, linguistic interpretations, and cultural traditions affect the proximity to or away from the true Islamic guidelines.. Certainly, Allah swt knows better; while his wisdom will rule our destiny..

There are few Quran verses and Hadeeth, which had set the selection criteria for brides and grooms.. However, the use of them should be within the general Quran guidelines of debating and arguing on any issues:

It is part of the Mercy of Allah that thou dost deal gently with them Wert thou severe or harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about thee: so pass over (Their faults), and ask for (Allah’s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs (of moment). Then, when thou hast Taken a decision put thy trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).. Chapter3ThefamilyofImran-Aal-e-Imran:Verse159

 

Also, Seeking Guidance from Allah swt by (Istikharah) is preferred:

Jabir bin Abdullah, may Allah please him: The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him; teaches us in all things seeking the goodness (istikhaarah); as well as He teaches us the Koran; says;

“”If anyone of you has an issue of concern; should he performs two Rak’ahs of the non-obligatory prayers, then make a Da’ua:

“O Allah, I seek the goodness as per Your knowledge, seek Your mightiness; and ask You unmatched grace.. You can, while I can’t.. You know and I don’t.. You are the Knower of the Unseen.. Oh Allah, If You know that this issue is better for me; in my religion, in my living, and in my destiny (or He said; as urgently warrants and later on); then; ordain it for me, make it easy, and bless me in it.. If You know that this issue is evil for me; in my religion, in my living, and in my destiny (or He said; as urgent warrants and later on); then; turn it away from me and dismiss me from it.. Guide me to what is good, and satisfy me..”” Said so and name your concerned need..

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The 1^st principle in Quran is to only choose the matrimonial partners as per their Faith:

Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise.. Chapter2TheCow-Al-Baqara:Verse221

Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.. Chapter24The Light-An-Noor:Verse32

Narrated by Abu Dawood from Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him.. The Prophet peace be upon him, said:  A Woman may be married for four: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religion.. Get the religiously committed; get prosper..

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The 2^nd Quran principle is men’s Ability for maintenance:

If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess: And Allah hath full knowledge about your faith. Ye are one from another: Wed them with the leave of their owners, and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable: They should be chaste, not lustful, nor taking paramours: when they are taken in wedlock, if they fall into shame, their punishment is half that for free women. This (permission) is for those among you who fear sin; but it is better for you that ye practise self-restraint. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.. Chapter4TheWomen-An-Nisa:Verse25

O ye who believe! When there come to you believing women refugees, examine (and test) them: Allah knows best as to their Faith: if ye ascertain that they are Believers, then send them not back to the Unbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the Unbelievers, nor are the (Unbelievers) lawful (husbands) for them. But pay the Unbelievers what they have spent (on their dower), and there will be no blame on you if ye marry them on payment of their dower to them. But hold not to the guardianship of unbelieving women: ask for what ye have spent on their dowers, and let the (Unbelievers) ask for what they have spent (on the dowers of women who come over to you). Such is the command of Allah: He judges (with justice) between you. And Allah is Full of Knowledge and Wisdom.. Chapter60Shethatistobeexamined-Al-Mumtahina:Verse10

The Prophet peace be upon him, said: If someone who you accept his religious commitment and character, propose to marry; accept.. If you do not great confusion and corruption will spread over.. A listener asks: O Messenger of Allah, Whatsoever he is? He replied, repeated three times: If someone who you accept his religious commitment and character, propose to marry; accept.. As in the Sunan al-Tirmidhi

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3^rd principle is the Abiding to Islamic Moral Code:

And marry not women whom your fathers married,- except what is past: It was shameful and odious,- an abominable custom indeed.. Chapter4TheWomen-An-Nisa:Verse22

There is no blame on you if ye make an offer of betrothal or hold it in your hearts. Allah knows that ye cherish them in your hearts: But do not make a secret contract with them except in terms Honourable, nor resolve on the tie of marriage till the term prescribed is fulfilled. And know that Allah Knoweth what is in your hearts, and take heed of Him; and know that Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Forbearing.. Chapter2TheCow-Al-Baqara:Verse235

The Prophet peace be upon him, said:  The non virgin is not be married until gives a permission; while the virgin is not to be married without her consent..  As in Sahih Al-Bukhari.. The non virgin is a divorced or a widow.. A virgin consent is her shy silence

Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, The Prophet peace be upon him, said:  Does not offer a sale incentives over a brother’s; nor propose Nikah to someone your brother already did, unless he dismisses and notifies..

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So, to summarize what to do, fighting for your dream partner:

1. Certainly, you need to be a true Muslim, performing all your religious duties and adhere to the principles of Islamic behavior and modesty.. Being a true Muslim will make your parents more confident in your decision and choices.. Also it will enable an Islamic grounds to discuss the matter when time is convenient..
2. Despite the chemistry, you need to do your intellectual “homework”, to make sure that the other person is genuine and has a matching true personality; without the usual exaggerated appeals and deceiving attractions.. Listen carefully to the comments on your chosen one; critiques, privileges and characteristics.. This is the step which determines your own maturity and true readiness to make a Muslim family..
3. Perform your Istikharah, with full sincerity and confidence that Allah swt will guide you towards the better decision and bless your intensions.. Ingredients for typical Muslim life should be there.. You can’t discuss marriage while been supported by your parents, or unemployed, or burdened with outstanding family responsibilities.. Your Istikharah is neither a fortune cookie nor astrology..!
4. Choose an elder to consult, not necessarily a relative, but a person with qualifications of “Deen” and adequate performance of “Dunyia”.. Someone with balanced practice of religion and life, enabling easy way forward with least damages.. There are many smart persons who can listen and advise, as per the ruling circumstances and domestic culture..
5. Never address the subject as a domain with your “Tough Parents”.. You can create lots of topics that will enable them to understand your general points of view, and how they apply the true Islamic interpretations.. Once you feel the grounds are fertile, you may calmly bring the name of your chosen person on the table, and carefully navigate among the rocks..!
6. Always remember that your parents sincerely want and wish all the best for you.. It is only a matter of changing times, whereas different periorities dig the gaps among generations.. Certainly, your exposure is greater than theirs, you have the brains and knowledge, and capable to deliver the message.. It is only about preparedness, presentation and rationale debate.. Certainly; Love will Win..!!

Husband & Wife

 

Dating vs. Proposing

Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim is a one of the new breed of Muslim preachers, who had mastered the principles knowledge of Islam, armed with professional and social experiences, and came from stable background, which many Muslim preacher lack.. Despite the allegations and controversies about his Salafi orientation; some of his topics are truly beneficiary to Muslims..

The Islamic knowledge is diverse and wider than any attempt to master.. Therefore, his school of thought had ignored the spiritual part, which is a great enigma for many.. This is why he had driven closer to extremists and radical Muslim..  Therefore, I do advise reader to be careful and conscious during such lectures.. and any others.. Simply; pick what fits and avoid what does not..

Therefore, his domains and topics about the governance seeded in our Muslim code of conduction and life style is very important to carefully understand.. Maybe words are not going to fit all Muslims, but the merge between Arabic linguistics and Universal Muslim Codes are the critical exam for how healthy and rationale our religion is..

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Wife vs. Husband

Muslim men; to be permitted for marriage; have to be mature, bread-earner, with good manners and have basic knowledge of Religion.. These four (mandatory) qualities would make men reliable and accountable to form a Muslim family and raise Muslim kids.. Then, they will add value and volume to the “Momentum of Believers”; which is the main purpose of marriage and reproduction.. Across the world and cultures; 1400 years ago, and stills among the majority of Mankind; men are expected to have the same four qualities to be qualified for successful marriage..

On the contrary, women who want to marry, are not required to compete for the above four qualities, apart from their implicit devotion as religious persons.. This is why men; across most cultures, regions and histories, were (preferred) older than their spouses; which is still traditionally exercised among more than 70% of the people today..

Muslim wives and husbands are generally and sustainably entrusted to exercise all religious rituals and duties, nurture their spouses and kids, keep all spousal privacies, maintain their household.. This is almost the same across all other doctrines..

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Mutual Happiness

The Marvelous Basweidan’s;  Lenka, Saeed & their kids.. Be Blessed

From: Ne tuguj, Allah je s tobom
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Translated by Google Translate; kindlly forgive the errors

Do not grieve, Allah is with you
The relationship of husband to his wife ..

If you are married, look in the mirror and ask yourself dal meet at least half of this, and if you ask yourself how they could meet today to marry …. Of course, the ladies have things that they should meet, but let some of them state the 10-odd 

First Be clean and pleasantly scented.

When we last left my men to buy beautifully designed pajamas?

Just as the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her.
Remember that Resulallah – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam – used miswaak before entering your home and that’s always loved the sweetest smells.

Second Use only the cutest names for your wife.

Resulallah – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, had nicknames for his wives, the ones that they loved. Call your wife the most beloved names, and avoid using names that may hurt her feelings.

Third Do not treat her like a fly

We never think about the fly while we do not start trouble. Similarly, the wife will do well all day – and thus will not attract the attention of her husband – until she does something to upset him. Do not treat her, recognizes all the good it does and let that be the focus.

4th If you see something wrong with your wife, try prećutiti without complaint!

This is one of the ways that the Prophet – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam – used to use when they see something inappropriate from his wives – Allah’ anhuma. This is a technique that, unfortunately, very few Muslims have.

5th Smiles to his wife whenever you see and embrace her often.

Sadako was a smile and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Just imagine what you would have a life that she always smiles at you. Remember those hadiths that speak about that Rasulullah – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam – kissed his wife before leaving for prayer, even when he was fasting.

6th Thank her for what he does for you.

Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at his house. She made food, cleaned the house, and ten other things done during the day. And sometimes the only acknowledgment of this gain is that it should put more salt in the soup. Do not let it be so, thanks to her!

7th Prompted her to write these last ten things you did for her and that she was made happy.

Then try again to do it. It is possible that you can identify what makes your wife happy. You do not have to indulge in a guessing game, ask it and then give all of yourself to it spake again.

8th Do not belittle her desires. Comforter is.

Sometimes men can run down a woman’s requirements.
Rasulullah – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam – gave us an example to follow when his wife Safijjah – Allah’ anha – crying because she was, as she said, he put on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted it, and brought her another camel.

9th Be šaldžija and is a fun game.

Remember that the Prophet – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam – race with his wife Aisha – Allah’ anha – in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that with my wife?

10th Some are always on my mind these words of the Prophet of Allah – salallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam: “The best among you is he who is best towards their wives. And I’m the best to their wives.” Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Do not forget to pray to Allah, Mighty and Majestic – to make your marriage (like everything else) successful.

And again Quran Allah knows best.

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Spousal Meter

 When things go out of order or control..
When hectic schedules of life leave no chance for breath or rethinking..
When simple disagreements will grow to be steel barriers.
Then, take five to examine each of you against the above 25 statements..
Then, you will definitely understand your own self better,, and your spouse as well..
Gradually, you can work together to eliminate dividing issues..
and grow stronger the closing ones..

Be Blessed and Pleased

Marriage

 

I’m very sorry for the sorrow and the suffering of all abused persons..
When a spouse is abusive, it is not that easy to make him or her to stop..
P.S., Men represent 40% of the domestic abuse cases worldwide..!!

This inhumane behavior is influenced of Bad Spirits on people..
Bad Spirits (Shytan and his klan) had sworn to Allah swt to dysfunction the righteous path..
This can only happens by monopolizing of the spiritually-weak persons to cause hurt and harm to spiritually-moderate others..
The only shield is obtained by adherence to Quran and Sunnah; in terms of governing the way we live, act and respond..

Many visitors had hit the page of Muslim Wife..
Wives had complained from abusive or neglecting husbands..
I had made my intensive research and posted replies to meet each case..
Trying to fill the gap between physical and spiritual practices of Islam..
Some small deeds may look funny, but very effective, and meaningful for who knows..!

I do not recommend any intervention with the faulty spouse.. They would turn more abusive..
Just try hard the advices and the commandments, and keep repeating..
Hold strong your trust of Allah swt.. and how close He swt is to you..
Simply, He swt is however we envision Him swt.. Close or Distant.. Careful of Busy..!!

The abusive spouse needs some body whom s/he respects; to advise..
How it is import to be gentle to the family..
If a spouse is not gentle, when old-time comes, no one would serve him or her with water..
Life is all about trading values and morals..

O’ Fellow Muslim..
The third notion of creation is about lawful reproduction and raise capable generations of believers…
Those who will continue to glorify Almighty Creator; Allah swt
Those who will continue to worship and praise Allah swt for his blessings and gifts..
This is the sacredness of Marriage.. in Islamic point of view..

Then, when we die, our possessions and deeds will not shield us from the Grave-Hardship..
No one had come back to life; to tall us what Grave-Hardship is..
We have to trust the words of Allah swt and His Messenger PBUH.. on how real it is..

Each of us need a family to make sincere Dau’a and Sadaqah for mercy, after our death..
The more loving their prayers for us would be, the soft our Grave-Hardship will be..
Strangers would feel sorry for our death, yet; sooner would forget and keep their own living..
Only our spouses and family would keep remembering and praying for us..
These prayers will shower our graves with water, bright and make-wider..
Can you imagine what this means..?

No wonder how many tears fill your eyes now…
If not.. Your heart needs serious purification..!
Easy done: Gear up, make wadu and strong intention for apology and forgiveness..
Then offer couple of Rakaah with a grateful conscious heart..
This is the glorious blessed start-up..

May Allah swt bless you, your family and your loved ones..

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The Carter’s; the most famous Couple..

From: Ne tuguj, Allah je s tobom

(Do not grieve, Allah is with you)

A Bosnian Facebook Group
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Marriage is an oasis in which your mental peace and happiness are the men and women, therefore it is necessary to make every effort to make this marriage oasis protect and preserve, and it will help the spouses and the tips of some psychologists and people who have tried the double Water …

First; The absence of women in a short time strengthens the marital bond, while the long absence disrupts this relationship.

Second; A man must know the nature of his wife, in order to properly understand and be referred to it in the right way.

Third; Do not let quarrels and disputes among spouses persist until the next day.

4th Not to mention the experience from previous marriages, which are related to the previous wife or husband.

5th Go through the imagination of an ideal marriage, but live in their own way and not expect the marriage supernatural miracles.

6th Use every opportunity to tell your wife that you love.

7th Always be smiling and cheerful faces, and struggles to overcome these problems and not sorrow.

8th Beware of being constantly commenting popratiš woman’s actions, whether big or small.

9th Always discuss what a small number of problems and do not let them in the evening, an attempt to solve the problem before you are out of control.

10th According to jealousy, suspicions and intrigues of the enemies refer wisely and cleverly, without any prejudice or accusation.

11th Instill security in their lives and those of his companion, be sure of himself and prove to him that you are satisfied with it.

12th It is not enough to marry the appropriate person so that you be a happy marriage, and you must be the appropriate person.

13th Cleanliness is half of faith and it is proof of love.

14th Give up some of the things that are an integral part of your personality to life through the good qualities that he enjoyed the love of his companion.

15th Takes care of the life of a loved one as you lead yourself and she wants what you want it.

16th Mutual giving and taking of gifts … Do not be a person who seeks a little more give and take all or nothing is paid.

17th A man wants his woman to be a special wife, who is behaving nicely at every opportunity, which he expresses love, watch it, and comforts, while the woman wants her husband to be a strong personality that will draw, which is able to meet its needs and it is certain that she was the last woman in his life.

18th In life, do not accuse your loved one for every problem that occurs.

19th He lives his days and not think about tomorrow’s problems have not yet occurred, and live according to their capabilities.

20th Up to you, O man, to realize the value of a good marriage, and she’s firm commitment, so think a thousand times before they bring a decision, after which a man regrets will be of benefit.

21st The marriage can not rely only on love, which is an important and indispensable factor for the preservation of marriage.

22nd In life, be a model for a loved one, let your actions speak of your personality.

23rd Do not let relatives and neighbors to intervene in your married life, but every attempt to solve the problem alone, according to their capabilities.

24th Do not rush to correcting errors of his companion, because there are certain habits to which the change takes time.

25th Marriage should be taken with all the responsibilities that entails, completely calm the heart and soul with pleasure.

26th Try to leave all that leads to differences in marriage.

27th Helps his wife in their everyday jobs, so you can come together even more.

28th Give your wife a chance to freely express their feelings, and do not make fun of her abilities.

29th Material rights must be respected and should not be lightly understood, because they are the main reason for disagreements between spouses.

30th Beware of friends that can interfere in your private life under the guise of counseling and guidance.

31st Prove to her husband that he is the right person, show him you’re proud and pleased with his personality.

32nd Set yourself the following questions in order to realized / values by their spouse and to thus successfully resolve their problems:
– What is it that captures the heart of every one of you with his spouse?
– What are the activities in which you feel pleasure?
– What does each of you in order to draw attention to your spouse?
– What do you expect from a loved one to feel that you really love?
– What are your dreams are common in the future?

33rd When mutual quarrels, beware do not use words that your husband will be angry.

34th Exchange gifts … you’ll love it … Let it be the motto in all appropriate situations (joy and happiness).

35th Clever wife is the one who chooses the appropriate time in order of her husband asked what it takes her and her children, also need to choose an appropriate time to bring attention to some of the failures of her husband, but in most cases this is not the appropriate time … therefore, think many times.

36th Not zapostavljaj wife … zapostavljaj husband does not … consultation is an important thing in a marriage … Each spouse needs to feel that it is essential in planning and life is not neglected.

37th Not running away from home when problems arise, because running away from the problem not the solution, does not matter that the man calmed down a bit, and then return to solve the problem.

38th Do not stifle her husband many questions that do not concern you and do not try to get to his secret that you do not want to reveal, in this case the husband would leave home and go to another place to rest!

39th If you’re one of those women who are employed, do not forget that the house is the greatest obligations to you, and trying to uskladiš family and business commitments.

40th Not uzrujavaj when you come to an event, husbands relatives, but are nice and welcome, welcome, because if so postupiš husband will notice it and will appreciate your efforts.

41st It’s nice to refer to the mother and oslovljavaj the most beautiful names of loved ones, according to custom, and do not quarrel with her, in her presence mention of her husband just as good.

42nd Constant divergence of opinion leads to divergence of the heart, used to support the opinion of her husband even though he did not agree with him … obey the husband in what is good.

43rd Calmness that her husband needed in the home can be achieved by making you calm down children, giving them signing to play dice, drawing, etc.

44th Your kids are a great boon, because they do not do it accidentally neglecting their education … let it be more important than everything.

45th Be a helper to her husband in worship … asks the world as such are looking for this world.

46th Extravagance disrupts married life, destroys the blessings of Allah, and Allah does not like the spendthrift.

47th Have a happy marriage does not have a life without problems, rather it means the ability to solve these problems, so as not to influence the relationship between you and your husband.

48th Well be careful not to svađaš with her husband in the presence of children, do not raise their voice when they are there, first because children learn from example and imitation, then all problems are etched into their consciousness, which can have serious consequences for the child.

49th Read about the development and treatment of children, in order to relate to them better, leaving what may be a bad influence on their development.

50th Do not allow anyone to interfere in your married life … Do not recite your secret relatives or friends.