التعامل مع المثليين

She asked me, and she said:

There is currently a trend in Western societies to make homosexuals a familiar, normalized image everywhere, and now they openly declare and take pride in their homosexual identity.

A conversation took place between me and one of the Muslim women about the fact that when I deal with them in the context of my work, I treat them kindly on the surface like anyone else, give them their due rights, and do not show them any aversion. However, inwardly I feel intense discomfort, aversion, and disgust toward what they are engaged in as a sin. I feel sorrow for them and wish that God would guide them. This woman’s response was that this should not be the case—that although we know what they do is forbidden, we must accept them and should not feel distress or disgust toward what they are doing. Rather, our feelings toward them should be the same as toward anyone else. She was disturbed by my feelings.

She then asked me a strange question that I could not answer, so I am putting it to you, perhaps you know the answer and can guide me as to what I should feel regarding this trial.

She said to me:
If the Messenger of God ﷺ were to meet them, would he feel aversion toward them? And what would his feelings and his manner of dealing with them be like?

So I answered her:

Your feeling of aversion is correct, and this aversion is natural. It is different from contempt of the heart. What is natural is beyond one’s control, whereas contempt for people is forbidden. The Prophet ﷺ did not eat the desert lizard and said, “I find myself averse to it.” And God said, “He has made disbelief, wickedness, and disobedience hateful to you.” So we feel revulsion toward sins, not toward the sinner. But for us, the two feelings—toward the sinner and toward the sin—often overlap, and we are unable to distinguish between them. Those who have attained spiritual completeness honor creation while also honoring the sacred symbols of the Truth.

سألتني فقالت
هناك اتجاه الان في المجتمعات الغربية لجعل المثليين صورة معتادة في كل مكان والان يجهرون ويتفاخرون بهويتهم المثلية
و جري حديث بيني وبين احدي السيدات المسلمات عن أني حين اتعامل معهم في إطار عملي فاني اعاملهم معاملة طيبة ظاهريا كأي اَي حد وأوفي اليهم حقهم ولا أشعرهم باي نفور ، لكن إحساسي الداخلي يكون في اشد الانزعاج والنفور و الاشمئزاز من ما هم عليه من معصية واشعر بالأسف تجاههم واتمني من الله ان يهديهم ، فكان رد هذه السيدة علي ان هذا لا ينبغي و اننا نعرف ان ما يفعلونه محرم و لكن يجب علينا ان نتقبلهم ولا يصيبنا الضيق او الاشمئزاز من ما هم عليه ، بل احساسنا تجاههم يكون كأي شخص اخر وانزعجت من إحساسي ، وسألتني سؤال عجيب لم استطع الرد عليه واطرحه عليك لعلك تعرف الإجابة وترشدني ماذا يجب ان اشعر به تجاه هذا البلاء

قالت لي
هل لو قابلهم رسول الله صَل الله عليه وسلم كان سينفر منهم ، وكيف سيكون احساسه وتعامله معهم ؟

فأجبتها
احساسك صحيح فى النفرة
وهذه نفرة طبعية
وهي غير الازدراء القلبي
فالطبيعي لا حيلة فيه
والازدراء للاشخاص منهيون عنه
وسيدنا النبي لم يأكل الضب وقال اراني اعافه
والله قال وكره اليكم الكفر والفسوق والعصيان
فنحن نشمئز من المعاصي لا العاصي
لكن يتداخل الشعوران عندنا بين العاصي والمعاصي فلا نستطيع التفريق بينهما
واهل الكمال يعظمون الخلق ويعظمون شعآئر الحق